Skip navigation! Story from Sex Tips. Like falling in love or meeting your soulmate, people say you'll "just know" when you're having an orgasm.
If you're a woman who finds climaxing easy and can have orgasms during intercourse with little effort — even in a position where it's difficult for your partner to access the clitoris with the fingertips — then you are very lucky indeed! For the majority of us, 'ringing that bell' is not nearly so simple. Even women who can masturbate to a climax with no difficulty can feel quite anxious about 'coming' with a male partner.
When a person is masturbating, or when they are having sex with another person, they become more and more sexually excited. They may reach a peak of sexual excitement, which is called an orgasm or 'cumming'. At this moment, all the tension and excitement that has built up in the body is suddenly released.
Suddenly sliding away from that peak is disappointing, to say the least. That's doubly true for women, many of whom find it much harder to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. In fact, according to a recent survey, only 65 percent of heterosexual women consistently reach the pinnacle of pleasure during sex.
Women and vagina-having folk have got a lot of ground to cover before reaching true equality, and when it comes to orgasmsit's no different. According to Durex 's sex expert Alix Fox, two out of three women and people with vaginas aren't climaxing every time they have sex. Which wouldn't be such a problem if all the people with penises were the same.
Sex and relationships educator and author Tracey Cox wades into the great orgasm debate and offers her climax tips. The female orgasm continues to be under intense scrutiny and the subject of extensive scientific interest. Experts endlessly puzzle over the myriad of ways women can orgasm, and the potential obstacles that could be preventing them for hitting the big O.
But variety really is the spice of life. You wouldn't eat the same three meals every day, nor would you wear the same outfit over and over. Sherry RossMD. Besides providing a physical release, it's also an emotional one—allowing you to feel closer to your partner or simply de-stress after a tough day.
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But they exist, and with a little awareness and attention, you can get the Os you deserve, from the fireworks-on-display kind to the calm oh-my-gods. When you find yourself missing out on the Big O, there are three likely culprits: expectations, communication, and method. And alongside all of that, experimenting is required.