In fact, almost 30 percent of women experience pain during sex medically called dyspareuniabut many are too embarrassed to report it to a doctor—opting instead to either resign themselves to the hurt or to a sexless existence. The good news? There are other better options for coping with painful sex.
I've listened to a lot of women, both straight and queer, talk about sex through the years, and there are, in my experience, two normal reactions to experiencing pain during sex. Note: I can pretty much guarantee that your cervix is not a secret vampire. Both of these are driven by one thing: misinformation.
For example, it may rise alongside ovulation to prepare for conception or lower to allow menstrual tissue to pass through the vagina. Each change in position is tied to a particular phase in your menstrual cycle or other hormonal change, such as pregnancy. Checking the position and texture of your cervix — as well as any cervical mucus — can help you gauge where you are in your cycle.
Penetrative sex can be uncomfortable, but sometimes it really hurts The medical term for this is dyspareuniawhich refers to recurring or persistent pain before, during, or after sex, according to the Mayo Clinic. The pain might only occur upon entry, penetration with anything like a tampondeep thrusting, or a combination of those — and the level of pain can range from mild to severe. Pain is a complex and multifaceted issue, so there isn't always one single explanation or treatment.
Back to Sexual health. If you get pain during or after sex, your body may be trying to tell you something is wrong, so don't ignore it. Find a sexual health clinic near you.
Vaginismus is a condition in which involuntary muscle spasm prevents vaginal penetration. The underlying cause is generally a fear that penetration will hurt. Treatment may include behavior therapy such as graduated exposure therapy and gradual vaginal dilatation.
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But have you ever considered aiming for a completely different type of orgasm instead? Enter, the cervical orgasm. It is apparently one of the most intense orgasms that you can have, and if you are able to relax enough during penetrative sex your partner can get deep enough to stimulate the cervix.
Most of the discussion around sex focuses on how to do it safely and, of course, how good it can feel. But painful intercourse deserves some time in the sexual spotlight as well. As terrible as it can be, not talking about it doesn't solve anything—because, yes, in many cases, painful sex can be treated.